Tell Me No Lies: How to Stop Lying to Your Partner—and Yourself

🔹 Core Concept: The book explores why couples lie—not just big lies, but subtle emotional deceptions—and how these lies impact marriage through four stages of growth: 1. The Honeymoon 2. Emerging Differences 3. Freedom 4. Together as Two 🔹 Main Focus: It helps readers identify: • The types of lies (to self and partner) • The root causes behind deception • The consequences of lying at each stage • How to move toward honesty, intimacy, and emotional maturity 🔹 Practical Application: It provides real-life examples, therapist insights, and exercises to help couples: • Recognize defensive or dishonest patterns • Communicate more transparently • Rebuild trust and intimacy 🔹 Authors’ Background: Bader and Pearson are founders of The Couples Institute in Menlo Park, CA, and known for their Developmental Model of Couples Therapy—a method used widely by therapists worldwide.